A Message in the Month of Love… and SELF-LOVE in Healing

What is the most important quality in healing others?

In my opinion, it’s empowering them to know how to heal themselves.

Many clients come to me after working with multiple practitioners. They arrive overwhelmed, trying to remember a mental checklist of 10 cues, just to stand or walk. Along with this, they can easily misinterpret well-intended advice in ways that ultimately amplify their pain and can create a host of new issues. For example, I’ve seen clients continually pressing their pelvises/pelves forward, thus straining their lower back, because they were told this was “neutral” posture. Whether or not that’s what was actually instructed, obviously that’s what they came to understand.

While I offer plenty of guidance during exercises, my goal is for them to tune into and feel an overall sense of ease and connection in their body—which releases their pain. This not only benefits their movement and posture but also teaches them to recognize that feeling of being “home” in their body—so they are eager to seek it out and know when they’ve found it. They begin to feel what’s good for them and what’s not, discovering the strength and power that come with this natural ease and connection. Otherwise, they remain stuck in a cycle of asking me whether what they’re doing is “right.” That’s fine at first, as they’re learning, but ultimately, I want them to sense it themselves. This builds confidence, self-love, and—most importantly—an internal knowing of how to feel good living in their own body. (Which also lowers their ‘threat bucket,’ further supporting them neurologically in being out of pain.)

DNS is incredible for stimulating the ideal postural movement patterns that create this ease and connection, but regardless of the approach we use, empowering our clients is essential. They won’t have us with them every day. They may not be able to afford sessions long-term. So why not teach them what to look for—especially if they misinterpret our instructions or if, honestly, our instructions weren’t the best to begin with? (We’ve all been there at some point.)

I know we practitioners all understand what good posture looks like. But I beg of you—find out how your clients or patients actually get there. If their bones have adapted to poor posture for years, simply placing them in an ideal position can create compensatory problems and strain. Even if they’re in a technically “correct” posture, let’s help them feel connected in that position rather than just stacking blocks that could topple as soon as they move. I’m grateful that DNS showed me how to easily sense where connection is lost—where collapse and overcompensation occur—but I bet if you’re tuned in, you’ll start noticing it too. Let’s help our clients find this connection so they don’t have to strain for good posture but instead know how to sustain it naturally.

And again, it’s about learning what to feel for, rather than memorizing a laundry list of mechanical instructions for movement and posture. When we activate what’s already built into the brain and spinal cord, they experience their body as “home” again—moving freely, with renewed strength and ease, feeling empowered, uplifted, in control, and out of pain.

Let’s help them get there—not by treating them as broken, needing to “fix” themselves piece by piece, but by guiding and empowering them toward true, integrated strength and alignment.